From stuck to safe: how to make change actually last

You have tried the mindset work such as affirmations, journaling, meditation and vision boards. For a while, it feels like you are making progress. Then an old trigger appears and suddenly you are back in the same loop of overthinking, doubting yourself and holding back from the life you want.

It is not because you are lazy or unmotivated.
It is because your nervous system and subconscious mind do not yet feel safe to make that change.

Why safety comes before success

Your subconscious mind controls around ninety five percent of your daily actions, decisions and reactions. If your system has learned from early experiences that visibility, speaking up or success equals risk, no amount of positive thinking will override that in the long term.

This is why many high functioning women feel like they are doing all the right things yet still cannot break old patterns. The missing piece is teaching your subconscious mind and nervous system that it is safe to live differently.

What is Time Line Therapy®? 

Think of your mind like a timeline with every memory, decision and belief stored in order. Some of those moments hold unprocessed emotions that shape how you react today.

Time Line Therapy® is a proven NLP technique that works with the subconscious to help you:

• Identify the root cause of a negative emotion or limiting belief

• Release the emotional charge without reliving the pain

• Keep the positive learnings so you can move forward

In simple terms, it is like untangling a knot at the very start of a thread so the rest of the thread flows freely.

It is gentle, safe and fast. Most people notice a shift after one session because it works at the root cause rather than the surface.

My first experience with Time Line Therapy® 

When I first experienced Time Line Therapy®, my biggest limiting beliefs were:

• I am not safe

• I am not enough

• I am not good enough

These beliefs had been quietly running the show for years. I would overthink before speaking, avoid situations where I might be judged and constantly second guess myself even when I had the skills and knowledge.

Through Time Line Therapy®, I released those beliefs and the emotional weight tied to them. The change was undeniable:

• I felt calm instead of anxious

• I could process challenges without spiralling

• I trusted my own decisions

• My nervous system no longer defaulted to panic or shutdown in uncomfortable moments

A simple practice to start rewiring your subconscious 

If you have been doing the work and still feel stuck, try this:

1. Notice when your body contracts such as your shoulders hunching, your breath shortening or your stomach dropping.

2. Pause and place a hand on your chest or stomach.

3. Tell yourself: “I am safe right now.”

4. Repeat as needed.

It may sound simple but over time this teaches your nervous system to create a new baseline of safety which is the foundation for any lasting change.

Creating change that lasts 

Lasting transformation is not about pushing harder. It is about removing the emotional and subconscious blocks so your actions flow naturally and success feels safe in your body.

If you are ready to release the beliefs and emotions keeping you stuck, my one to one coaching program combines NLP and Time Line Therapy® to help you create change that actually lasts.